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them to be happy again and that they will
be okay. Validation of your child’s feelings
is extremely significant in building their
self-confidence and self-esteem.
4.
Compromise.
Contrary
to popular belief, compromising doesn’t
have to be a tug-of-war. After you listen to
each other’s perspective and communicate
lovingly, offer some ways to negotiate
with your child so that both of your needs
are met, if possible. As a responsible
parent, there will often be times when you
shouldn’t allow any of the things your child
has requested. Instead you can suggest
some safe alternatives that are healthy
and acceptable for them to choose from.
In return, ask your child to commit to
providing you with some of your needs.
This is especially related to conversations
that Moms have with their teenagers.
Teens are usually struggling with their
self-identity and independence. Find a
balance between understanding your child’s
needs and negotiating without risking
responsibility. Depending on your child’s
maturity, you can determine the extent of
space you give them to make decisions.
5.
Body Language.
A Mom’s
body language can send the toughest
gangster into a fit of tears. Children quickly
become sensitive to their Mother’s look of
disapproval or disappointment. If you want
the conversation to go well, make sure your
body language is positive and welcoming.
Always maintain eye-contact with your
children while you are conversing. It
teaches good communication habits and
it states that you are serious about what
you are saying. Avoid crossing your arms
and legs as it is extremely symbolic of
defensiveness and stubbornness. Sit up
straight and look attentive so your children
will know you are focused on what they
are saying. And please, whatever you do…
DON”T roll your eyes unless you want to
experience the boomerang affect. Children
will mimic how you deal with stress in
challenging times. So, Moms, be selective
and aware of your body language when
communicating with your child.
6.
Tone.
Screaming at your children
turns them off and shuts them down. If
they experience it at home, they will carry
it wherever they go. Try to model healthy
behavior during challenging conversations
by keeping your volume at a peaceful level.
This will show your child that you’re still
in control and are not reactive. Your tone
not only sets the mood of the conversation,
but also impacts how your children will
interact and behave in society. So, speak to
your child in the way that you would want
them to speak to others ñ with love and
respect.
7.
Attitude.
Nobody wants to
interact with a person who has a bad
attitude. The same thing goes for your
children. They will not want to have a
discussion with you if they feel your
attitude is poor or sense tension. Try to
release all the negative emotions and ideas
you have with the situation first so you
can speak and listen with a clear head and
loving heart.
8.
Honesty.
Teach your kids to be
honest by being honest with them. Besides,
your child’s memory is far sharper than
your own! When you make promises,
make sure you’re able to hold up your end
of the bargain. If you’re dishonest with
your children, you encourage them to not
only be dishonest with you but to other
people as well. The subject of honesty
between Mother and Child is a delicate
one. You must use your best judgment
here. Children trust their Moms more than
anyone else on earth from the time they
take in their first breath of air. As a Mom,
you have a responsibility to be delicate
with your child’s trust and confidence.
When it is broken on your part, they will
seek out ways to repair the hurt that may
not be productive or safe.
9.
Approach with Love.
If you’re coming from a place of love, the
person you’re talking to will feel it and be
receptive. Everyone inherently wants to
be loved and feel love. Always try to speak
and act with benevolence and care. For the
most part, people are reactive. If someone
is expressing love to us, we will return
the sentiment and be open for healthy
communication.
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