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With kids glued to the laptop or busy studying or doing homework, while mom and dad are
worn out and tired fromworking long hours and commuting, communication between family
members is becoming a dying art. Yet
learns that the very crux of a healthy family is
communication and the family that talks with one another, stays together...
Classic Scenario
Mom is tired, dad is tired, kids are one is talking. Instead we
send messages via Twitter, email, and
text messaging; whatever happened
to the art of good old fashioned
communication? According to Dr.
Valeria Risoli, Clinical Psychologist
at Dubai Physiotherapy and Family
Medicine Clinic, communication is
the essential ingredient for the healthy
and positive functioning of any group
of people. She explains, “In a family,
communication is absolutely important
for the relationship within the couple,
between parents and children and
among siblings.” And communication
is much more than talking, but rather,
paramount for sharing ideas, showing
affection and respect to each other.
“Communication is not only an
expression of words or gestures, but is
listening and paying attention to each
other in an active and positive way,” she
says and communication encompasses
many aspects; from sharing meals
together at the table as a family, sitting
together and chatting as well as playful
interaction are all effective ways to
enhance communication.
Communicating to Children
Communication within a family
should always be clear, direct, positive
and assertive, stresses Risoli and the
way parents communicate with their
kids’ changes upon the age of their
children. “The tone and the visual
expression used when communicating
to a baby and toddler are obviously
different from the tone used when
talking to a teenager,” she says. “At
different ages, your son or daughter’s
needs are different; for example, a baby
and a toddler need to be reassured and
cuddled, at ages four and five, he/she
needs to be listened and answered to
hundreds of seemingly endless ‘whys’
and ‘hows’ while at ages 9 and 10, he/
she needs to be asked clear questions
about his/her day and praised for his/
her successes.” Teenagers on the other
hand, need to feel comfortable and
understood so they can trust and open
up to their parents.
The Toddler
A baby, says Risoli, is more sensitive to
the tone and volume of mom’s voice; he
may cry if his mom says ‘stop’ or ‘no’
Apr/May 2014