Kids Refusing to Go to School
All parents have experienced this at one time or another—where a child just refuses to go to school without really explaining the reasons. Here, Dr. Nakita O’Leary, Clinical Psychologist offers solutions.
Protect some time to talk: Children often express their reluctance go to school in the morning. This time of day is busy for most families and might not be the best time to have a conversation about it. Spend time together doing something she enjoys. Thiswill allow her to relax and feel comfortable talking to you.
Connect: Your child may be nervous to tell you about what is bothering them at school. Children often worry that their parents will not believe them or take their problems seriously. They alsoworry about whether what they have to say will get them into trouble. Towards the end of your fun evening together, sit down with your daughter and address the issue.
Make suggestions: When children find it difficult to talk about something, it can be easier for them to simply shake or nod their head in response to suggestions. If she says no to everything you suggest, believe her, it may be something else. In which case you could ask her to write the problem down or draw it for you.
Action plan together: Once you know what the problem is, decide together how you will solve it. Often children do not tell their parents about challenges at school as parents’ actions, while appearing to deal with the problem, can make things worse for the child amongst their peers. Set aside another time to sit down together and list all of the possible solutions to the problem, include unrealistic or make-believe solutions, to make the task more fun and engaging for her. Then together decide on the most realistic, effectiveand comfortable course of action for you both. This is likely to include talking to the school. Be honest about this with her.
Debrief: After you have addressed the problem together, debrief with your daughter about whether it helped or not. If it has not helped, you can try another solution from your list of possibilities. If it did help, you can reinforce how good it was that she shared the problem with you, as that allowed you to overcome it together.
Talk with ur child, play detective role n don’t lecture. Avoid lengthy discussions and debates about the importance of going to school
Kids r very good natural planner
Its very serious us issue
Kids r like satan when they r going to school
Check for physical causes. If your child is complaining of physical symptoms, have her checked by a physician.
some children can’t describe what is bothering them. Don’t force conversation if it doesn’t seem to be going anywhere.
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The most important message to convey is this: you believe your child can conquer this problem, and you’ll be there to help her through it.
Any attention, even negative attention, can reinforce and maintain a problem
Look for patterns of when your child complains of illness
Look for clues as to what is causing your child to avoid school
Set up a conference. Both parents should meet with the teacher and/or the school counselor.
Don’t assume the teacher or the school has done something wrong
It’s important to make sure that any reality-based fears, such as bullying, are addressed and corrected
Let your child know that if he’s truly ill, he will need to see a doctor, stay in bed and rest, keep the TV off, and so on
Do not make it appealing to stay at home
Enforce rules about no TV or video games
. If you stay home with your child, don’t offer lots of extra attention and sympathy. It may sound cruel, but you don’t want staying at home to be appealing
محاكاة بيئة التعلم. إذا انتهى المطاف بطفلك إلى البقاء في المنزل ولم يكن مريضاً ، اطلب منه أن يقرأ ، ويدرس ، ويجلس منتصباً في مكتب ، وما إلى ذلك. بالنسبة للمراهقين ، قد ترغب أيضًا في فرض قيود على النوم ، لأن هذا أمر مغر بالنسبة للكثيرين في هذه الفئة العمرية
Some of these suggestions will prove difficult to follow for working parents, but do your best
fikr fi alhusul ealaa musaeadat sidiyq ‘aw qarib ‘aw jarin ghyr eamil lifatrat qasirat min alzaman
ضع سياسة مرضية في وقت مبكر. على سبيل المثال ، قد تجعلها قاعدة أنه ما لم يكن طفلك يعاني من الحمى ، فإنها تذهب إلى المدرسة. إذا كانت مريضة بالفعل ، يمكن لممرضة المدرسة تقييم الوضع وإرسالها إلى المنزل إذا لزم الأمر
Consider having someone else take your child to school until the situation is resolved.
see your child intensely distressed about attending school, try to remain calm and supportive
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Remember, your child needs to go to school – this is where children mature, not only intellectually but also socially and emotionally
This morning was very different than every other morning, despite it starting just the same. My child refuses to go to school.
It happens at least once in every parents lifetime. You are not alone
School is like hell for my 🚸 childrens
school anxiety is a real thing and it can be completely debilitating if it happens to you and your child.
اليوم ، أود أن أشارك بعض من أذهب إلى إستراتيجيات للتغلب على هذه الصباحات الصعبة ونعود أنت وطفلك إلى أقدامهم والاستعداد ليوم رائع
I have three children and each of them have done this at least once
This is a very common problem. In fact, I see this happening more and more during the holidays and after long breaks from school
your child feels that whatever is bothering them or worrying them is very valid
Try to understand the feelings of child
Identify any underlying physical problems that could be causing your child to not want to go to school
Identify any school factors that could be causing your child harm, worry, or fear