Stop Trying to be Perfect

With the surge in social media, lots of us portray an image of perfection, a flawless family withbeautiful kids and a matching home. The flipside is that some of can’t stop trying to be perfect and can go to extremes in trying to achieve the impossible.

During Childhood

Perfectiongenerally develops during early childhood, when you learn how to behave to be loved and accepted by your parents. Perfection may come from a perfectionist parent and controlling parent having high expectations for himself and the ones his loves. Also,in our societies nowadays, cultural influence plays a big role concerning perfection because it is accentuating the importance of having a perfect image to be accepted by our peers: perfect mind, perfect body, perfect face, perfect outfit, and

The Positive Side

In a positive form, perfectionism can drive people to accomplishments and provide the motivation to persevere in the face of discouragement and obstacles. The meticulous attention to detail, the commitment, and the persistence can lead perfectionists to realize great achievements. The extreme form however, can be very damaging. It can take the form of procrastination when it is used to postpone tasks, such as waiting for the ‘right’ way to do it. In the workplace, perfectionism can be marked by low productivity as individuals lose time and energy on small irrelevant details of larger projects or mundane daily activities. In intimate relationships, unrealistic expectations can cause significant dissatisfaction for both partners.

Simple Ways to Curb Perfectionism

Emphasizethe positive things that you do and have, instead of the things you don’t possess.

Modify your own perception of yourself, realizing that you might not be as bad as you think you are.Understand that perfection is an unrealistic belief and find attainable things that can satisfy you.