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Phases
Albina says that all relationships
go through phases. “There’s
definitely a stale phase and this is
where innovation and creativity
come into play,” she says, just
like we feel the need to re-invent
ourselves on the personal level,
we sometimes need to re-invent
ourselves on the relationship level
as well. “What does your partner
enjoy? What do they love? What’s
their dream? Sometimes when
life’s circumstances change,
we adapt in order to survive
and just follow the new rules
while forgetting about our
own,” she stresses. “Find out
what your partner’s recipe for
a happy life is and try to inject
some of these ingredients into
your relationship. Sometimes
the simplest changes make the
biggest difference.”
Practical Ways to Infuse
Life into Your Marriage:
“Ask yourself this question:
what is one thing that you
can do today that will make
the biggest difference in your
relationship? What will make
your partner feel special and
appreciated?”
If you haven’t been spending
enough time together, Albina
says that a great gift would
be to take time off and spend
some time together. “Go away
for a weekend or just go out
and do the things you used
to love doing but never really
find the time to do anymore,”
she says. “There’s no better
gift, especially if you’re going
through a rough patch in your
relationship. Some time out will
help you get a fresh perspective
and reconnect on a new level.”
If your relationship is not
fun, passionate, or intimate,
make it that way. Have fun.
Be creative. Shake it up. Enjoy
your relationship. Learning to
think in a different way means
that we can learn to live in a
different way.
Why
Wait
According to
Rawan Albina,
a Dubai
based Life
andWellness
Coach, some
reasons
why many
people wait
for a special
occasion is
because this
is what is
expected and
this is what
they’re used
to. “People
are too busy
stuck in life’s
cycle to do
something
out of the
ordinary.
Most of us
allow life to
take control,”
says Albina,
adding,
“When we’re
not in the
driver’s seat
we allow
things to
just happen
to us... as if
someone else
is filling out
the pages of
our own life.”
(Source: Jack Ito PhD-- licensed psychologist and relationship coach.)
Credits: Rawan Albina, Professional Life and Wellness Coach -
Steps to
Re-Ignite The Love:
Unclutter your
mind by making
lists. Shopping
lists, chore lists,
gift lists, whatever.
Just like a backpack
full or rocks takes
the fun out of a
stroll, so a mind full
of demands and
obligations takes
the fun out of time
with our partner.
The belief that
things need to
be spontaneous
to be good is an
example of a belief
which limits your
enjoyment. Instead
schedule a regular
date night each
week.
Final Advice for Couples:
Her final words of wisdom;
“Make time for each other. Set
time aside each week to do the
things you love to do together.
Make sure that no matter what
happens nothing will get in the
way of these plans,” she says,
adding, “If something does then
always make sure to make it up
as soon as possible.” You can
even make every day Valentine’s
Day by reminding yourself what
got you both together in the first
place and consciously choose to
honor their relationship by giving
it the attention it needs every day.
“When we set time aside to honour
what we value most in life we can
make every day Valentine’s Day
without the amount of effort it
would take to create it once a year,”
she says. H
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Mar/Apr 2015