Resilient people have the ability to bounce back positively in difficult times.  They trust that everything will work out and use adversity as a springboard to move forward into new opportunities.  

5 tips to build up inner resilience: 

Encourage and Soothe Yourself
If things don’t go according to plan, how is your inner self talk? What do you tell yourself? Do you frighten yourself with scary thoughts of all the things that could go wrong or do you reach for thoughts which soothe your fears and disappointments?  If you want to build up your resilience muscle, start by soothing your thoughts with kind words.   Remember, just because things may not have worked out exactly as you would like, it doesn’t mean that they won’t work out in the end.     

Care more about your feelings 
When you care more about feeling good, you won’t want to dwell on anything that makes you feel bad or upset.   Choose to make feeling good your priority.   If  you don’t feel good, the chances are that you are just choosing to think thoughts which cause you to experience negative emotion.  Even if you are stuck in a traffic jam or your flight is running late, you can choose to feel good or you can choose to feel bad – it really is a choice!  

What do you make things mean about you?
What do you make life’s setbacks mean about you?  Do you take criticism to mean they you ‘not good enough’ in some way or you are a failure?  Resilient people are more likely to just see criticism as just another person’s point of view, and not take it on personally. The next time you feel attacked or criticized, choose to select a positive and objective interpretation that builds up your confidence and resilience, rather than breaks it down. 

Examine your own emotional hijacks
People who are less resilient tend to fly of the handle quickly and suffer from ‘emotional hijacks’.   If this is you, identify what the trigger is.  What is it that makes you react in this way?  What is it that causes you to ‘flip your switch’?  Take a look within and work out what your own triggers are. 

Give up the need to control everything
There are times to let go of the reigns and resign as the ruler of the universe.  Choosing simply to let go of the need to control every outcome in your life will help your body to release the struggle.   

(Credit: Lisa Phillips is an award winning coach on the topics of confidence and self-esteem. She is also the author of the Confidence Coach book.  To find out more, see: www.amazingcoaching.co.uk